Pain, as so many of us call it, is in fact a source of power, a source of transformation and moving from one thing to another. It is the gate for our happiness. I don’t understand why people freak out whenever they have any feeling of sadness or frustration.
Be sad, get frustrated, cry as much as you can, and count every tear on your eyes
because these are, for sure the ones that would change the direction of your journey.
9 Comments
July 17, 2009 at 7:27 AM
Murtadha
Thank you, I really need some motivation these days. after some bad news, I don’t know how can I express my sadness, .. no tears, just silence .. but I still have the faith that all the pains are blessings ..
thanks again..
July 17, 2009 at 7:47 AM
Shada ،Days will pass, and you will remember your past frustration and all the struggles you have been through with a big smile on your face!
then, at that moment, you will realize how the pain has moved to something more beautiful than anymore can imagine
July 17, 2009 at 12:01 PM
true! but then if there is always pain even if the going is good, there must be something wrong…
July 17, 2009 at 5:14 PM
coralbead,
no that can be meant that you are about to enter infinite happiness
July 18, 2009 at 9:57 PM
Hmm, Murtadha, If I didn’t know you, I would have thought you were a “masochist”, lol ( I am just kidding). But, seriously, I couldn’t less agree with you . Suffering, although in some cases may lead us to atonement, but ultimately unless we seek therapy it might lead us to chronic depression and thus, any other mental illness or suicide. I am not talking about physical pain, only , as you said, sad feelings or severe mood disorder (which by the way is a sign of depression).
July 31, 2009 at 2:11 PM
Anhedonia or alexithymia are two conditions where there is little if any feeling and both are very uncomfortable.
I agree the ability to feel sorrow, sadness, grief, anger or any of the “negative emotions” is a part of the human experience that can lead to insight and greater wellbeing. However it is also true that inappropriate negative moods, or ones lasting too long, or becoming incapacitating require therapy including sometimes medication, and later when one is more well one can understand the experience better.
For more normal negative emotions writing about them, and sharing them with trusted loved ones are good ways to reveal and understand them. Exercise and socializing, and “faking it till you make it” are other good ways of handling them.
An inspiring post. Thanks.
July 31, 2009 at 4:52 PM
I agree Chiara,
In Buddhism, they say that you can confront the pain by simply changing the way you think of it. this type of mediation is really great. Because i think we should have control over pains and pains should never have control over us.
July 31, 2009 at 8:11 PM
Agreed! and a very healthy general attitude!
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