Your sisters in law must be very happy with their husbands! My husband who is from India and has been in America 15+ years doesn’t even do that for me…OK, he’ll vacuum and unload the dishwasher once in a while.

It sounds as if your mother was a very wise woman and prepared her sons for their marriages well. If the woman is happy the rest of the family is happy!

No offense to anyone Saudi about the next part…I am just telling it like it was in the book.

The second is it talks about lesbianism in KSA. Almost the whole chapter is quoted by women as to why it happens. The author doesn’t really put his opinion in but rather lets women explain what goes on.

It is for primarily two reasons:

1. the woman says that in general Saudi men do not respect their women and treat them as if they are embarrassed by them when inside KSA. She said that is due to mothers treating their sons as if they are the most wonderful thing God put on the earth and they have an overblown sense of self due to that. She said once the family leaves KSA(vacation) the men are completely different and so nice. So she says it is something about the culture that compels them to act this way. They leave their wives alone a great deal of the time to go out and hang with their friends, they cheat with other women and the women are not only treated badly they are lonely.

2. Due to the strict segregation of the sexes the women spend the vast majority of their time with women…they eat together, laugh together, comfort each other, but most of all they have respect for each other which is something they can’t find with their husbands. BECAUSE these women crave respect and tenderness and because they can’t get it from their husbands and because they are in such close proximity to women who do give them respect naturally, they do allow themselves to become involved in love affairs that reach them not so much on a sexual level but on an EMOTIONAL level. They are getting from other women what they can’t get from their husbands. Because it is forbidden to be seen with another man in any way shape or form, even considering an extramarital affair with a man is suicide. So they turn to those with whom it is safe. She said they can shop, eat out, watch movies do everything together and no one thinks about it and that also makes it easy to conduct affairs.

I felt sorry for the women because if they got what they needed from their husbands and I don’t mean sex…but rather tenderness, conversation as an equal, respect, etc they most likely would never seek to look outside their marriage. There would be no need to.

She says it would take mothers treating their children, boys and girls, equally and the society would need to see them as equal to men too in order for the men to realize that women needed a gentle touch. Perhaps a little sensitivity training???

and she said that is what the big attraction about the soap opera NOOR was all about. the husband treated his wife as an object of his desire but an equal as well.

-Hala
you disappeared suddenly from the blog sphere so I am glad to hear back from you.
I am glad that Mr. Shobokshi was able to get to his TV show and publish his article in the newspaper. I am very astonished by his courage in writing such an article. It is dangerous as you said, to talk about political, social reform here!

I really root for Saudi Arabia to progress. I think a lot of people don’t appreciate how much it has already progressed in say, 100 years. :^)