Love and Hate as a possible combination

i am trying to understand the relationship between love and hate , and how each of them affect the human’s  behavior! 
these some of the question that pop up in my head! 
Is it possible for Love and Hate to be together?
Is it possible to love a person and hate him in the same time? 
do you think we should HATE and LOVE fully or partly?
when we hate a person, should we hate his religion, his ideologies, his family and everything that is related to him?
share your thought here !
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5 thoughts on “Love and Hate as a possible combination

  1. Saudi in US

    Murtadha,

    Some of my thoughts. Nothing deep, just direct answers.

    Is it possible for Love and Hate to be together?
    If you are asking the question in generic terms the answer is yes. I can love my wife, but hate my mother in-law. (not true about the mother in-law, just an example so don’t think about getting me in trouble :))
    If you’re talking a specific thing, concept, idea, person, etc. The answer is No. I can either love or hate it or be indifferent. I may not love a trait of the thing I love. For example I love Saudi Arabia, but hate the fact that it has the commission. At the end of the day, I still love Saudi Arabia even with that flaw.

    “Is it possible to love a person and hate him in the same time?”
    Ditto on the concept above about Saudi. Example I hated Saddam, but I loved the fact that he kept the peace between the factions. So even with that advantage, I do not love and hate him. I simply Hate him.

    do you think we should HATE and LOVE fully or partly?
    This one is a little tougher. I do not believe in partial love or hate. The way I see it is an emotion like anger. You can have extremes of it not partiality. I may love a person at a higher degree than another person.

    “when we hate a person, should we hate his religion, his ideologies, his family and everything that is related to him?”
    No unless those are the reasons you hated the person to start with. Using the example of Saddam, I hated him, but I certainly do not hate his religion.

  2. Broken Wing

    simply put, you can’t have one without the other.

    most of the time, hatred will evolve pure love and a pure love will have its moments of hatred.

    It all comes down to the fact that love and hate will always be together.
    For instance, you wouldn’t know how nice the sun feels without the clouds. You wouldn’t know how nice it is to sit by the fire without being out in the snow.

    you will never know how good love is unless you learn to embrace hate.

    -“Is it possible to love a person and hate him in the same time?”
    What i believe is yes you can. The person you love the most is the same person that could hurt you the most. Its because you love them that they can hurt you.

    -“when we hate a person, should we hate his religion, his ideologies, his family and everything that is related to him?”
    =) nope! this is out of personal experience. I hate a person, but i love her sister is my best friend, and we have the same religion and both are related to me. We should never generalize when we “hate”, because hate is a strong, intense, feeling, and when we hate, it needs to have a reason.

    -“do you think we should HATE and LOVE fully or partly?”
    My grandmother told me once “hate is like cancer. It doesn’t matter if you have a lot of cancer, or little. it will get you nowhere”
    does that sort of answer your question? =)

  3. شيماء ,,

    أعتقد أننا حين نحب ,, نحب الشخص ,, بسبب شخصيته ,, طريقة تفكيره ,,

    وحين نكره ,, نكره تصرف ,, أو فكره معينه ,, لا نكره الشخص نفسه ,, !

    أكيد من الممكن أن نحب ونكره نفس الشخص ,, لأنه لا يوجد انسان نسخه طبق الأصل منا ,,
    ولا يوجد شخص يتفق معنا دائماً ,, !

  4. عبدالله العتيبي

    There are two kind of people: emotional people and intelligent people. If you are an emotional person then you either hate or love. When you love, you’ll always love, and when you hate, you’ll always hate.

    If you are an intelligent person then you may hate your brother when he lies to you. But that doesn’t mean that you genuinely hate him. No, it’s because you hate him when he is not telling the truth. It’s actually not hate as defined by emotional people. However, with intelligent people, hate is defined as a disagreement or a conditional emotion, a managed emotion that is.

    Emotional people are stupid people, uneducated mostly. In case of religion for example, they will hate you with all their heart if you are different. Until you change, and once you change to their belief, they will love you with all their heart. As you see, it is really basic thinking that a monkey is able to do. They are not utilizing their full brain.

    So, i believe that being fair, honest and respecting others for whatever they are is not only a matter of being a good person vs not being good but also being intelligent vs being stupid.

    Regards

  5. Murtadha

    Saudi in US, Broken wing, شيماء ,,عبدالله العتيبي

    thank you so much for your amazing thought,,
    i have to say that the discussion is so powerful.. i learned a lot from each one of you… i will add my own thought soon

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