culture, discussion, Gender, Media, religions

A lesson that should be learned

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I was watching CNN last night. It gained my attention a story about a church in Florida posting a sign of “Islam is of the devil” in front of the church building. What interesting is that people from different ages, races and religions protested against the church because of the discriminatory and racist sign. Those people stood up because they believe that it is a civil right issue. They stood up because they are against discrimination of any kinds to anyone in any place.

This is a lesson to be learned for us Saudi. When we see someone discriminating another person because he belongs to one sect or another, we should stand up against that no matter whether we agree with that sect or not. When we go to Jumu’ah prayer and heard the Imam insulting jews or christian people, we should stand up and make it clear to the imam that we are against what he is saying. When we go to work and sees that our managers or friends are discriminating  against women because of the gender issue, we should stand up and make it clear that any insult to any woman is an insult to us.

I can’t be a man unless I fully respect and recognize women rights. I can’t be a muslim unless I respect all other religions and faiths. I can’t be a human being, a real human being, unless I stand up against discriminations of any kind to anyone in any place.

Media, philosophy, Politics, quotes

Edward Said’s View on the Media


“Despite the variety and the differences, and however much we proclaim the contrary, what the media produce is neither spontaneous nor completely “free:” “news” does not just happen, pictures and ideas do not merely spring from reality into our eyes and minds, truth is not directly available, we do not have unrestrained variety at our disposal.For like all modes of communication, television, radio, and newspapers observe certain rules and conventions to get things across intelligibly, and it is these, often more than the reality being conveyed, that shape the material delivered by the media. “

Edward Said

culture, discussion, history, Media, Politics, psychology

what I care about is

Child abuse is in everywhere in the world but what made me  angry and sad is that many saudi aren’t aware of it and it has been ignored by media and public organization in Saudi Arabia up to this moment. The statistic of how many children are abused in Saudi Arabia is just horrifying. A study by Dr Ali Al-Zahrani has shown that 22 percent of children in Saudi Arabiaare exposed to sexual abuse. Children can be sexually abused in elementary school by their teachers or even in their home by their relatives. It can happens in everywhere but you don’t hear the Saudi media talking about it. It is probably busy talking about upcoming visit of a prince or a discussion over the fight between liberal and conservative. Well, I don’t care about who the prince is meeting tomorrow or who is right or wrong between liberal and conservative. What I care  about is the the safety and the security of our children.

The picture below is an example of what newspapers cover in the front page as the most important news:

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culture, discussion, Media, psychology

Child Sexual Abuse in KSA

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one of my friend has noticed a sudden change in his little brother behavior for the past 2 months. He refuses to sleep alone in his bedroom. He cries with no reason and he feels insecure all the time. His father and mother weren’t able to understand his situation and the boy refuses to speak about the problem. My friend insist that his brother is fearing of telling something so he went to boy’s friends in elementary school.  Eventually, after along interrogation, one boy told him that he always sees his brother alone with sport teacher in his office.  My brother and his parents were shocked to know later that their child has been sexually abused by his sport teacher for 2 months.

But why the boy has never told his parent from the first time that his teacher was abusing him? How does this incident will have a negative impact on the child even after 10 years?  What should have been done by parent to prevent that from happening in the first place? These questions along with others are the ones that I want to address in my blog this week.

Media, Politics

Dear Prince Turki Al-Faisal,

Dear Prince Turki Al-Faisal,

I really respect your opinion but in the same time I fully disagree with what you have said regard the US energy independence. I think assuming that people of any nation will depend on our oil forever is fallacious and unreal assumption especially with all the technologies and great science we have today.

Decades ago, we thought it is impossible for people to land on the moon. Now, we laugh at ourselves for being close-minded.  Please, Mr. Al-Fasial, we don’t want the history to be repeated again with the same mistake. We have to realize the fact that one day we will run out of oil and other nations are working very hard to find another sources of the energy other than our oil.

blogging, discussion, friends, Gender, Media, panaroma, Politics

Bloggers Panorama

  • “I too don’t like the concept of everything happened for a reason or fate, the resaon -whatever it was- may take longer than our life time to be revealed” Hala Aldoseri commenting in one of Marahm post regard fate
  • “Oh, no! If people got to know each other before marriage, NO ONE would get married!” Marahm quoting her Egyptian’s friend during a lively discussion
  • “I have always said that Saudis should not complain about how hard it is to get a visa to any country as long as it is still extremely hard to get a visa to come here. The foreign ministry is not making a good point when they compare Saudis to citizens from other Gulf countries; these countries offer visas to EU citizens on arrival at the airport. It is all about reciprocity” from Ahmed Al-Omran post Visa Wars and Reciprocity 
  • “It is probably best to believe that discrimination against, race, gender or faith would never change. To live in a remote state, while “others” fix the problem” said Aysha Alkusayer when she couldn’t enter the audition for a comedy in Riyadh after it has been announced that is is open for men and women
  • “We didn’t and still don’t know the truth about this country (Iran) and of its social and intellectual structures. I would say that I didn’t notice in those days when I walked between the exhibition halls and the streets of some of the popular markets and five stars hotels and popular restaurants and businessmen’ palaces, any manifestations of signs or indications of a strongly revere and sanctification of Khomeini and his group as we imagine*” said Yaser Alghaslan in his blog post Tahran as I see it (*translated by me)

culture, discussion, history, Media, Politics, psychology, religions

The Causes of Shia-Sunni Conflcit -1-



Many blogs like SaudiJeans, SaudiWoman and Living In KSA have recently talked about the story of Shia-Sunni conflict in Madina. I am not going to talk about the conflict and who is right or wrong because it is simply not in the area of my interest. I consider my self to be both Shia and Sunni in the same time. In the past, I  devoted part of my blog to resolve the conflict between Islam, Christianity and Judaism but since we have a conflict within Islam, i think it is important too to discuss the possible resolutions of the conflict here and how it can be implemented.

The Conflict:

The firs thing that psychologists and sociologists look for when they try to resolve a conflict is understanding the causes of it because simply we can eliminate the conflict by  eliminating the causes of it. So I spent a lot of time thinking and researching about the causes of the conflict. Here, I will talk briefly about the causes and you are welcome to discuss and question anyone of them.

The Causes of Shia-Sunni Conflict:

  • The Absent of Rationality and Independent Thinking in Saudi Society:

Our (web of belief) is built upon what we hear and see from our families and friends. We consider any information we get from our families and friends as facts. We don’t question, research or even doubt! We just believe what they tell us and that is it.

  • Confirmation Bias

We are very bias. We don’t feel comfortable when we see something that may  disconfirm our web of beliefs. Sometimes, We even feel threaten by that. because if what I heard isn’t true, this means that the persons ( my family and my friends) who told me about it are wrong. Therefore, we always seek to confirm what we heard or learned.

For example, if my father told me that people who belong to this sector  allow adultery in their homes, then i would unconsciously make an image about them in my mind and then i would start looking at YOUTUBE trying to find anything that can confirm that, of course without questioning the reliability of that movie!

  • The Absent of Communication Channel Between Shia and Sunni:

We live in one country and maybe in one small town but we don’t like to talk with each other. Every group views the others as an alien. Even in our universities, which is suppose to be the center of diversity, Shia students like always to be with Shia student and Sunni student like always to be with Sunni students. Even in the mosque, Sunni have their own mosque and Shia have their own mosque.

If you don’t talk to me, and I don’t talk to you, how can I understand you and how can you understand me? How can I know that what i heard about you is wrong or correct and how can you know that what you heard about me is wrong or correct? It is only by communication that we can have a better understanding of each other.


Media, Politics

When Media Act Like a GOD

US media is so busy these days with covering the breaking news about New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer involvement in sex scandal. This is not something new in the media.

It is like a routine scenario. This news will be the hot topic for two weeks or more. The media will cover every side of the story trying to answer different types of questions like how and why the Gov did it, where he did it and with whom he did it and so on.
At the end, Gov Spizer resigned from his job saying that he is deeply sorry for his misconduct. but hold on here, there is an important question. how much power should the media have over people life and does it has the justification to overcome and invade people’s privacy. I am not talking here about the privacy of Gov. Spitzer. he knows from the very beginning that working as governor means giving up his private life and that is true with the celebrities and famous people who chose to sell their private life for their fame. I am talking here about the woman who was engaged in the sex misconduct with the governor Spitzer. Should the media invade her privacy? Do CNN and the New York Times have the right to put her pics in front of public?
Doesn’t seem that US Media is trying to act as good? Watching people personal life, counting their mistakes and punishing them for doing so! i am not trying to justify here the huge mistake that the women did but everyone knows well that we all do mistakes. We are human being. We go through some crisis in life. Sometimes unconsciously we risks many of our values and principles and then at the end we recognize our mistakes and start changing our selves. This is a very basic norm of human life.
What if our mistake became public, What of people got their nose in our life, would we continue the process of change? and would the society accept out change? Just imagine that you are walking around PSU campus and every one looks at you as psychologically ill. At the end of you walk, you will really believe that you are truly ill. The same thing here with that woman. Everyone in the public now will look at her as prostitute. She may never get married because basically no man will be willing to marry a prostitute!
It seems to me that the woman is facing three possible road.

1) She may consider being a nun and devote the rest of her for a different kind of love. love for god, love for Jesus, love to a super power and so on.
2) She may commit suicide and make reach the ending point of her life. ( many people consider this option because they lost everything and so they have nothing to lose more)
3) She may start her life again. Face her struggle. Make her own society. Adapt a new change.

My hope that she consider the last road.